Ако мъжът изкарва повече пари, има ли право да решава повече вкъщи?

 In Japan, they call it a "silver divorce" — a couple splitting after 20 or more years of marriage.

It used to be rare. Now it's more than one in five of all divorces in the country, the highest share ever recorded.

And roughly 70% of the time, it's the wife who files.

The timing is not random.

Many wait for one specific day: the husband's retirement.

Here's why.

Until 2007, a Japanese wife who divorced had no legal claim to her husband's pension. She walked away with nothing.

That year the law changed. An ex-wife can now claim up to half of the employee pension her husband earned during the marriage.

So a woman who spent 40 years at home suddenly had a way out that didn't end in poverty.

She just had to wait until the pension was locked in.

One woman told a Japanese relationship counselor she knew her marriage was over the day her first daughter was born. Her husband never carried the kids, never took them anywhere.

She stayed 28 more years.

"I had to think about the economic difficulty," she said. "I wanted to see the kids off to college."

Then she left.

These are men from Japan's boomer generation — salarymen who worked 12-hour days, drank with colleagues until midnight, and came home to a house that ran without them.

They never learned to cook. Many never learned where the washing machine was.

At 60, the office is gone and they are home all day, every day, asking what's for lunch.

Japanese wives have a word for this kind of husband: nure-ochiba, "wet fallen leaf" — something that sticks to you and won't come off.

Japanese doctors have a name for what it does to the wife: Retired Husband Syndrome. A psychiatrist coined it in 1991 after seeing a wave of women with stress illnesses that began the week their husbands stopped working.

A relationship expert in Japan put it simply: "A couple's history is an accumulation of years. That resentment builds up over time."

Another woman was blunter about why her friends divorced: "They got sick of doing laundry."

The husbands see it differently.

They gave 40 years to one company so the family could have a house, school fees, and a pension.

They came home and the reward was divorce papers and half the pension gone.

To them it looks less like liberation and more like a plan — stay for the money, leave when it's guaranteed.

To the wives, it looks like the first choice they ever got to make.